Over the past several months,
black women as well as their interactions
– or can I say, lack thereof – currently acquiring most interest.
The Washington Article
did a few features upon it. Then ABC’s

Nightline

performed a show asking exactly why there are a lot of solitary black colored females.

Suddenly the popular mass media is actually taking an enthusiastic interest in all of our love physical lives. Our company is becoming informed that there’s a ’crisis’ amongst black colored females, particularly knowledgeable expert women, who happen to be evidently incapable of find a ’decent’ black man.

There isn’t any doubt it’s a topic that sparks heated arguments and conversations amongst black men and women. It offers consistently. It is it surely that terrible? Or perhaps is the mass media – given that it offers found a hot topic – exploiting this issue for several that it’s well worth? I am an educated black colored lady and I truly don’t have any problem with meeting eligible, informed, fantastic black men. If or not I decide to go out all of them is yet another thing, but they are online.

I am notably perturbed by the slew of stories about this subject. They truly are negative, unhelpful and simply are designed to perpetuate negative ideas about black people which come to be self-fullfiling. They basically say ’oh, poor black colored ladies. They take to so difficult yet can’t find a good man … Boo hoo, black women are victims. Ooh, its all the error of these pathetic black men. You know, they have no training or tend to be locked up in jail.’ Sorry, but I do not subscribe that view.

Many reasons exist exactly why black women are unmarried. And it’s maybe not considering the black man. Maybe not taking personal obligation nor working with unexplored luggage from the last takes on significantly more of a job than most of us feel. We women can be not all only saints that have to combat against bad males. A lot of people women genuinely believe that a
higher degree and an excellent wage
are enough to create us fantastic friends. As I’ve composed before, we
women can be maybe not victims in internet dating
and it is completely disempowering for us to buy into these kind of shows and articles which benefit from perpetuating the theory we tend to be.

As just one black woman I’m actually interested in hearing from cheerfully married black couples as to how they found and the thing that makes all of them tick. We

Michelle and Barack Obama

, an attractive cheerfully married black pair when you look at the light House. Exactly why cannot we pay attention to how exactly we can emulate lovers like this?

Tune in to

Dr Boyce Watkins

and that I talk this problem out and tell us what you believe.